What do you do to get yourself out of a funk?

I spend time with my daughter. she is one nest gifts from God her friends come over she's a teenager do nails pay game stay up late eat jink food I feel like a kid.

I am not pleased that I have l lupus yet I deal with it. It has taking quite a bit pf my self esteem and confidence with the rashes on my face. Althoigh there are many forms of lupus i had 2 be the one cursed with SLE. this form of lupus attacks the ograns. I am very lucky to be qlobe becaise tje doctors told my parents the disease woiud kill me by age 16. I am now 34 and ive outlived the time doctors had set for me to die. I livr day by day in pain not to mention severe fatigue. So i have many of blah moments i just dont let it get the best of me

I'm in the same boat. I'm 33 and according to my doctors should be dead by now. My SLE has attacked my heart lungs and kidneys. I've had two heart attracts and two hip replacements. The fatigue kills me. It takes me away from being a mother. Thats what hurts the most. I look to this site for support. I keep reaching out with no response though.

Just read your post and it broke my heart to think you feel so alone. I have no answers but lots of prayers. Please feel free to contact me also. That's what this site is for…support.

Thank you! I've prayed so much. The other day my daughter found me passed out. I just had heart surgery on 12/10 and was trying to cook dinner for my family. I woke up in the hospital only to find out I had another heart attack. I'm so tired. I just got out the hospital. People look at you like you're lying because you don't have broken bones or because you're not bleeding. Last week a man waited on me at the front door of target to ask me why I parked in a handicap space even though I have a handicap tag. I felt violated, he told me I looked fine and should be ashamed to take a space from someone who needs it. My husband kindly told him to mind his business, but that's the ignorance I deal with even with family members.

Moo

I'm sorry you have felt like you received no response. Feel free to contact me anytime you need to rant and rave about the situation.

I think the fatigue is so hard to deal with. I'm lucky like you that don't let it get the best of me. I can handle a lot of pain, but the fatigue works against me more often than not. It is a constant self-talk battle. You are reminded with every movement. I really admire your strength.

Well thank you Skardykat i agree the fatigue is thw worst

I enjoy the small things that the Lord has given me and us. I put up a bird feeder and have enjoyed each morning sitting on the porch, doing my Bible Study and watching all different kinds of birds feeding, but the best laugh for today was the squirrels that have found the way to climb down the chain and over the top of feeder to get to the food. Last night was not good but I had a great laugh this morning which started my day so much better. Have a Blessed Day.

Right now I am pulling myself out on a major depression. I am seeing a psychologist whom I have come to trust. But My main objective is to find some joy in my life. I'll let you know when it happens. I am looking forward to school starting on the 20th. So I can have some time for me. Plus having time on the computer. It is hard for me to write in my Fire.

none of my usual tricks are working. I just seem to keep falling further into the shadows. So I am trying to find a professional I trust and hopefully get the funding of such help thru insurance.

Know I got lucky with my therapist. I was so hummed out the other day I wanted to throw in the towel. Hope you can get out of this. IT is so hard. Love and prayers headed your way.
I'm here if you need me; Your sister in all this

Jeanne

Hugs and Prayers!

LOL - I do not cope with the BLAHS by dying my hair. I am pretty sure that it was a dye job that triggered my lupus. But sometimes I give myself permission to have short period of sadness. I am one of those people who believe that a good cry can remove unwanted chemicals from the body. So sometimes I deal with the BLAHS by putting on one of my favorite "tear Jerker" movies. Then after I have had a good cry, I take a good warm relaxing magnesium and lavender soak bath after which I give myself a manicure and pedicure. I use one of my homemade body oils (essential oils mixed with organic coconut oil) and give myself a head to toe massage. Then I crawl into bed between clean crisp scented sheets.

If I have money, I get a massage. I have found a massage therapist just around the corner from my house, so I can actually get the relaxation back home. But I try to get enough sleep and to eat something that I really like - usually something very healthy but if I need a big boost there are things with which I can pamper myself. I am 65 and I have been living with lupus for at least 45 years. So, I have an entire trunk full techniques and I keep pulling them out until I find the one or two or three that help me hold on until I get a change.

And the pastor of my church is a clinical psychologist. If I can get to a Sunday church service it is as if I went to a great group therapy session. I always feel better when I leave than I did when I came in.

Find something you love, or used to love doing and try it again. Even if it's not as appealing as it once was, it'll start to come back. I like to read, crochet, take a walk in the woods, draw, take photographs. When you're in a "funk" it's hard to enjoy the things you used to in the same way, but trying is the key. I try to choose something peaceful or meditative.

Hey snowsgirl,

This is a great question. Everybody has their own approach to puling themselves out of a funk. What's important is to recognize when you are in a funk, and to know what you can do to get out of it. It is kind of like have your own personal toolbox that you can reach into and pull out the tool that you need.

What I read in your post is facing life on life's terms, accepting what you can't change and taking charge of what you do have control of. That's the best we can do, but it is also a lot.

I hope you are having a good week!

Gary

Hi, you know what, I can't answer your question because I'm right there with you, I guess that's why I checked out your mail. But, this weekend, as poor as we are, my partner and I are going to visit my sister. I've lived away from my family for years and really for me being with my family gives me a boost. I try so hard to 'shake it off' but sometimes it doesn't work. I have found an holistic doctor so when I can afford to go I will make an appointment. Staying positive is hard but it's worth the effort.
Smile xx

Amanda

Hi Amanda,

I am really glad that you are getting away and doing something that you enjoy. That's a great way to help pick up your spirits. It seems to me that the economic crisis that we are in, which has left so many of us with limited finances, has also given us a push toward making the best of the simple pleasures in life. Like spending time with people that we care about, just being together. The basic gifts of life that don't have a monetary value.

Staying optimistic is a one day at a time proposition. Some days we are more successful than on others. But I suspect that, looking at the big picture, you can see where you have had a lot of success. Certainly this weekend will count in that direction.

I appreciate that you took the time to reply here. I hope that you will stay in touch!

Gary